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Lost Your Job? 5 Tips on How to Deal With Anger After Losing a Job!

Posted on 30. Dec, 2008 posted by Bill in Employment News, Interviewing

Its important to remember that it is natural to feel angry toward an employer that has laid you off and the economic conditions that have led your employer to make that decision. It is not natural or healthy to deny that anger or to stay “stuck” in it. Unexpected anger often gets turned against friends and family who don’t deserve it. Other family members are also affected by the layoff and they may be worried and anxious as well. Everyone in the family may end up being upset, angry and blaming each other. If that happens, its important to check and see if the anger is at your partner or the kids, or if it is at the situation you find yourself in.

Unexpected anger can also be turned inward and become self-blame and feelings of low self-esteem. If anger doesn’t find a healthy outlet it can also lead to depression, feelings of powerlessness, substance abuse and family problems. Unexpected anger can be toxic, it’s important to find places to express your anger so it doesn’t get bottled up inside where it can be destructive.

Talking about your anger to co-workers or other or others who understand what you are feeling makes it easier to let go of that anger and move on. In some situations it may even be something to talk with a professional about. Keeping it bottled up inside is a bad idea. While anger is normal, if it isn’t dealt with it can be a serious block that keeps you from getting on with your life.

Here are some creative ways to deal with your feelings if you feel uncomfortable expressing your feelings verbally.

1. Write your feelings down. Write a letter to your former boss telling him or her exactly how you are feeling. Don’t worry about the content because you are not going to send it.

2. Writing it down will release some of the anger you might be experiencing and help you restore that feeling that you are in control of your life.

3. After you have written the letter read it out loud and then dispose of it.

4. Rip it up into small pieces, burn it, wad it up in a small ball, and bat it around outside with a racquet, and then throw it in the trash. Just do something to get rid of it.

5. Another way to get rid of negative feelings is by doing something physical. You could hit a bucket of golf balls as you verbalize in your mind what you are feeling. “This golf ball is the anger I feel about the way I was treated’ or “This is the betrayal I feel.” Then let it rip! Just remember to not take things out on your family friends or pets.

Remember that it is natural to feel angry toward an employer that has laid you off and the economic conditions that have led your employer to make that decision. It is not natural or healthy to deny that anger or to stay “stuck” in it.

Best wishes on your job search,

- George Hayes- http://lead-n-learn.blogspot.com for more tips on Career Change, Employment, Interviewing, and Job Search.

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